Healing From Toxic Families & Building Healthy Family
Healing From Toxic Family Abuse In Healthy Community At Lighthouse Global
The publication of the defamatory Daily Mail article exposed the individuals who were at the forefront of the online smear campaign that had been stirring on Reddit.
It became clear that we could identify who these assailants were based on what they wrote, how they wrote and who they focused on in their attacks, because it would always be someone close to them.
Many families who had strained relationships with people at Lighthouse Global were using the online accusations and the Daily Mail as an excuse to attack Lighthouse Global’s partners.
One instance in particular of this came when a friend committed suicide… I was only 21 at the time and didn’t know how to process this loss. My dad replied to my plea for help with “can we talk about it later? I need to coach the kids now” yet having no time for his son.
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
Seeing and living through these kinds of experiences only builds a lack of trust in parents, who we see as gods as a child… https://t.co/9y8b08RrXv pic.twitter.com/aYslDd8dsm
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
I share this because recently I have, through the love and support of @PaulWaugh64, @chrisnash1, @jssmills and many others, I have begun to out the truths that have been covered up by my family, by my mum and dad, to really truly heal.
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
I would speak often aloud to my grandad (who had tragically passed at the time) looking for support looking for guidance. It was Chris Nash who said “what if it wasn’t him but someone else?” This was the starting of a wonderful opening for me to see God as a reality.
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
This has shown me that He has always been there, he was there when I was 11, when I was 21 and 25 when I tried to commit suicide. He has always supported me, I’ve always had that support and led me to family and…
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
We started reading the Bible in a year together, something I have never done, I’ve never even read the whole Bible! I am so excited that we are and for anyone who would like join us please get in contact 🙏🏻 God bless us all.
— Ed Zapp (@LighthouseZapp) December 29, 2022
I confess.. for the first time and I could blame the strong Gin I’m drinking but I know better that it’s my lord his Holy Spirit. Ready for this? Ok.! Phew! I was chronically abused sexually and mentally.. socially emotionally! It’s my first confession inspired by my Lord/Bruvs x
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) May 29, 2022
I will now be outing my sexual abusers by name! I tremble to say it! I hate it! But it’s important! Please watch this space and support me! Im genuinely frightened! Lord help me! Any one who can help me that’s been through it please contact personally. Testimony to come🙏🕊❤️
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) June 1, 2022
Toxic parental & family jealousy of so called loved ones here at Lighthouse all hiding behind a facade of love and concern ..let me put this nonsense to bed once and for all. No family member would attack their loved ones here ..feel let down by them if they loved them..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 9, 2022
viciously jealous family members constantly attacking Lighthouse myself and others along with their poor stricken family members here have an emerging creed..Love no one else child or ELSE INCUR OUR WRATH!! I pray these controlling and manipulate toxic families repent/Christ🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 9, 2022
These families have attempted to destroy us at Lighthouse over the years and the affect it’s had on their family members here. We very reluctantly are about to bring these tragic cases to the world. I will announce the first people to share tomorrow. God’s guidance please 🙏 ..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 5, 2022
Do no underestimate the toxic jealousy of parents, siblings, spouses & friends! It’s pervasive and it chronic! All you have to do is start another platonic and meaningful relationship with another person or group and boom in comes the toxic jealousy, malice & then vengeance 👀😰
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 9, 2022
There are families that have sexually abused their children who are now here at Lighthouse receiving help. The police are now investigating. It is now inevitable that they will be outed and held accountable by law! We have held back for too long, no more! Let God be the judge! 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) May 29, 2022
discussions with these brave and courageous survivors here at Lighthouse & to be part of this filming project. We will also be filming documentaries in relation to issues relating to discrimination & persecution across the board. We have many true stories to share. Will help many
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 5, 2022
Families get away with murder because the stricken child or children or battered wife and/or husband is too ashamed to speak. Our people here many of them children of abusive and malevolent family members are literally terrified of family and of being judged or/& persecuted🙏😀..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 5, 2022
There are people that have been RAPED by family members while they have been here at Lighthouse despite being in our care. In one instance only when their mentor realised that something was wrong that they tried to rescue.Police investigation in progress. Terrible case. LORD 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 5, 2022
When survivors report to the police they hold back the full extent of abuse by so called loving parent’s and family because of the fear. Just seeing their parents name on an email or text sends many into anxiety or shock. After 18 years their silence will now be broken 🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 5, 2022
Toxic Family In The Waugh Rooms
Many of us here at Lighthouse stand united in Christ against the storm of oppression. We have and are helping abused and controlled members of these families get those toxic claws out of their lives & souls. We have been relentlessly attacked by these parents and families
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 7, 2022
We will be sharing the first case and first session on YouTube and ongoing on my program the Waugh Rooms. We will be revealing the real reason behind many of the attacks here at Lighthouse as well as the families snd toxic and abusive parents and families involved. Please pray🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 7, 2022
First family/parental/child abuse case session complete. It was really therapeutic for all of us. It is an introduction to the series that involves the first survivors and their case. I will announce when it is on YouTube tomorrow as well as the family and parents involved!🙏.
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 6, 2022
Prayers, love and blessings to you and all involved! It’s incredible how the love of Christ heals and supports and gives the courage to face what is desperately painful. Thinking of you all x x x
— Olivia Humphries (@Olivia62485264) October 6, 2022
Phew 3:35 am and just finished watching the first case study session on YouTube. It’s the hardest thing I/we have ever done. My head is thumping! Thank you to all my brothers and sisters in Christ for your love and support. Thank you to our Lord Jesus Christ! Kingdom come Lord 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
Facing Toxic Parent Rani Singh: Lighthouse International’s Paul Waugh, C... https://t.co/wmKhZKsXqF via @YouTube
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
@PaulWaugh64 Watching this next session of the Waugh Rooms, facing toxic parents, what @JaiSinghmentor and @Lighthouse_Sukh are doing, wow, God bless you both. Standing up to someone is hard enough, but standing up to a parent! Thank you for your courage, with the love of Christ
— Diane Cubitt (@dianecubitt1967) October 10, 2022
Rani Singh has relentlessly tried to break and has succeeded in breaking her sons down. When her sons in desperation came to Lighthouse she has to this day tried to break us and Lighthouse down. Then she’s wants her sons to produce for her while she breaks them and us down👀🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
You invested in us as a family. Staying in hotels together to just heal and reconcile… (& more) nothing is ever good enough for her. It’s desperately tragic, this isn’t a horror movie, it is real life. It’s barking mad, God bless her soulz “Anything begun in anger ends in shame”
— Sukh_Singh86 (@Lighthouse_Sukh) October 10, 2022
Facing our toxic & abusive parents is by far the hardest but most liberating thing in Christ we will ever do along with his atonement. We can help you and prepare you to face them. Parents cannot be toxic & not abusive & destructive. Face them. Christ calls all children🙏❤️🕊..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
Amen… pic.twitter.com/k8JRkkicDk
— Sukh_Singh86 (@Lighthouse_Sukh) October 10, 2022
If social services knew of what was happening in the family home they would have removed your sons from your custody. The Singh family counsellor to their mother Rani Singh …God bless you Jai and Sukh we are & have always been there for you and always will! Pray🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
“Chloe (our family therapist) was right in her assessment that there would have been a case for social services to have got involved as when I was ill, you were neglected, and when I was well, I was up and away and left you.” - Gagandeep (Rani) Singh #truth #settherecordstraight
— Jai Singh (@JaiSinghmentor) November 3, 2022
There are malignant families and parents who are attacking and attempting to destroy Lighthouse and it’s people who with great evil and cunning are associating themselves with Cult researchers and in some case so called experts to get credibility for their falsehoods.
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
dots back for a very long time. We held them back far far longer than we ever ought to have and we have been punished for it. We held them back because we knew and know that these dots have a perpetrator associated that will be forever decimated through revealing them. Harrowing
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 10, 2022
I have a WONDERFUL PROPOSAL for all the the self entitled angry and self justifying parents out there. WHY NOT COME & MEET ME live on camera with the child/adult you say you have not damaged and that you raised so well? But remember ..real names and faces ok. You innocent right?
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 11, 2022
We are now bringing psychologists in to do a complete analysis of the toxic Reddit posts in the Waugh rooms.🙏😀👀..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 11, 2022
No apology from Rani Singh to her sons and myself. She is seemingly just interested in herself and all this scrutiny she is now receiving for her horrific treatment of them. This was totally predictable.This is consistent with being toxic/narcissistic/abusive.Rani u can change🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 11, 2022
Rani you can change, you've been able to see the truth when the consequences hit you hard! You have people around you reinforcing your story. Let's make it right, there's always a chance no matter what. Paul has always said to me love Rani, reconcile w/Hari x x @RaniSinghjourno
— Jai Singh (@JaiSinghmentor) October 11, 2022
In defence and compassion for Rani Singh..she by her own testimony was very badly damaged by her family. Very toxic family environment apparently. However this means she ought to know how that feels and so treat her sons well. The inter generational nightmare ends with her sons🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 11, 2022
I haven't seen ONE thing written by any of the liars on Reddit or any in the press say "in defence of Paul Waugh and out of compassion for him" nothing. not a jot. Yet you do it for them. For Rani. just proves categorically you're not a nasty cult leader leading us astray x x
— Jai Singh (@JaiSinghmentor) October 11, 2022
Building Healthy Family
The lack of healthy upbringing was a significant problem across the board with around 70-80% of people having either dysfunctional or maligantly toxic families. We at Lighthouse Global were shocked at the unexpected extent of the damage, psychological and otherwise abuse that had been caused to our partners throughout their lives. In order to heal from this but to learn how to build healthy community, the question became: what is a healthy community?
We at lighthouse are committed to liberating people from controlling parents, siblings, spouses and so called friendships. We have helped people who thought that they would never be free of the bondages of toxic family. We have support groups here. Contact us🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 9, 2022
I’m loving my work with families. 1. My family. 2. My greater ..Lighthouse family. 3. Holding toxic families accountable to their actions/children and the law while encouraging change. 4.Helping struggling families to grow in love. 5. Helping people out of toxic families/Pray 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 11, 2022
Family/15
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) November 1, 2022
Repentance is at the heart of receiving Christ’s atonement & our salvation & deliverance. A happy, wholesome and healthy family is immersed in the love of Christ through the humility and the gift of contrition..repentance..atonement and deliverance of that family🙏
All families have toxicity. Healthy families are always working to remove toxicity from it. It’s families that are MALIGNANTLY toxic that are a massive problem to children and each other. Malignant families with the deepest depths of malignancy are always blind to their toxicity
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
Malignant toxic families are also blind to the enormous damage pain and suffering that they inflict on their children. If you bring it up they will attack you or ignore you. If your family is malignantly toxic GET OUT!! Phew ..God help us🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
What Makes A Great Parent?
If parents cannot mentor and counsel then they are feeders and gate keepers with maybe the odd cuddle! You cannot parent (teens even more do) if you cannot mentor coach counsel and lead! End of! https://t.co/YgxZEFjTML
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
When I ask parents what competency - skills they have in disciplines/practices such as mentoring - coaching counselling - leadership etc most look at me with a vague expression! I find myself having to help them out - guide them in some sort of face making social relief effort
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
1. Questions most Parents struggle to answer to the huge detriment of their child’s growth and upbringing. Q1 ..How do you mentor your child and what’s your mentoring plan and modus operandi? Gods mentors 🙏❤️
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
2. Questions most Parents struggle to answer to the huge detriment of their child’s growth and upbringing. Q2..What’s the difference between mentoring /coaching /counselling in your understanding? God loves parents who mentor/coach and/counsel 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
3. Questions most Parents struggle to answer to the huge detriment of their child’s growth and upbringing. Q3.. How does your coaching and counselling dovetail with your mentoring if at all? God loves a child’s structured upbringing🙏..
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
4. Questions most Parents struggle to answer to the huge detriment of their child’s growth and upbringing. Q4. What fundamental and foundational principles do you teach and ingrain deeply into your child’s character? Gods children & principles 🙏
— Paul Stephen Waugh (@PaulWaugh64) October 13, 2022
Lighthouse Testimonies of How We Serve
‘From Coming Out To Looking Within.. My Journey to Christ & How Lighthouse Global Saved Me from Drowning in The Denial of my Trauma.’ – Olivia Humphries
From life changing crippling trauma to facing the excruciating pain of my sexuality. My life journey describes how Lighthouse has lovingly provided a space for me to fight for my soul despite the betrayal and attacks from toxic family members and predatory trolls all of which ultimately led me to Christ.
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